Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Goals for the 2014

So first let me just say...holy cow where did time go?! I cannot believe that 2014 is here already, and that I survived 2013, it was a very strange, stressful, and wonderful year. That being said last year I only set one goal for myself and I now deem it pathetic and worldly, and it was to lose weight. I did not succeed in this goal. Okay that's not true, I did back and forth several times I've fluctuated between the same ten pounds all year. But I would get so stressed out over not losing the weight, or what "being healthy" meant that I really was going down a bad path. Almost self destructive in a way.

I was obsessed with the idea of being skinny, and not model skinny, but skinnier than I am now.  For awhile all I talked about was the gym, and I started doing Herbalife nutrition supplements, tried to become a vegetarian, and set unrealistic "fitness goals" for myself, which I never achieved and then became depressed when I didn't achieve them. Which here starts off my list of goals for 2014;

1- This year I'm taking a different spin on being healthy, and actually learning how to be healthy. Introducing myself to new foods, and cutting out processed food! The words low fat do not mean a damned thing if there are no vegetables and a ton of preservatives in the stuff. This year I am going to teach myself how to really cook, and how get the best nutrients I can out of juicing fresh veggies and fruit. Thanks to my boyfriends mom that is going to be breeze.

Also in steps to being more healthy, sleeping habits. Actually having them. I started on a really good path this summer, where I would make myself tea, grab a book and read before going to bed. That is going to happen again. I slept so much better then. Also with that. I will not sleep past 10 anymore unless I was up until 5:00 a.m. for some reason the night before. Massive sleeping in days are over because it always keeps me awake at night. So here's to a happier, healthier, well rested 2014.

2 - Learn Spanish - I live in LA, it needs to happen. Plus I have a giant set to learn. I am going to learn spanish.

3 - Relearn Sign Language - Once upon a time I could actually hold conversations with the deaf. Now forget about it, I can spell and that's about it. This year I will become fluent in both languages!

4 - Watch one new movie per week - I want to be an actress. Yet I am horribly lacking in film knowledge. My boyfriend however is a film fiend, which is one of the things I love about him! I think this goal will help me know more about the industry I so desire to become a part of.

5 - Read One book per month - Since the discovery of the internet, social media, smart phones, and all of those things, books have almost become a thing of the past. I love to read so this is a sad, sad fact of my life. Less internet, more books!

6 - Go Home - I have not been to Pennsylvania since July 2012...enough said. It's happening.

7 - Get Head Shots - This is getting done. No more putting things off! Time to fight for the career I want.

8 - Less Smart Phone more guy time - I am one of those people that is always on their phones. Even when I am with people. I want to spend more quality time with people, especially my guy, without having my phone be a distraction. Challenge accepted.

9 - Accepting my body - I was really mean to myself mentally this year. I became really depressed over the way I looked. Convinced myself that I will never work, because in the industry I am considered fat. While by societal standards I could stand to lose a few pounds, I am learning to love myself the way I am. I am already a great deal down this path but still have ways to go. Having a boyfriend who constantly reinforces that helps a lot too! He really is wonderful.

10 - Spend one hour or less mindlessly surfing the net - Again internet is an issue. I will sometime sit and stare a facebook for hours, procrastinating on things that I could actually be doing, like reading, going for a walk, cooking, something! I think this will make me realize that I have a lot more time in my life, than I think I do.


11 - Read my Bible everyday - This is a hard one for any Christian, but it can be done! I started a Chronological reading plan months ago and did really well with it for about a month...then I failed. Time to get back on the horse. I want to know what God is saying!

12 - Take an Acting Class - Yes this was my whole college career, but I could use a brush up for sure!

Alright 2014, bring it on! I'm ready!


Friday, December 20, 2013

Top Ten Carrie Underwood Songs Part 2

Continuing on;

05 - Look At Me - As much as he doesn't like country, when the boy and I get married, this is playing at some point. This song pretty much exemplifies what I feel every time I look at him. Yes even when I'm mad at him. It has been this way since the second I realized I was in love with him, which wasn't long after we met. I appreciate this so much more I think because up until the past two and half years, our relationship was NOT easy, and I heard this song for the first time shortly after he and I reignited our relationship, and I cried because it was so true. Sometimes when I look at him this song just plays in my head.


04 - Play On - Yay Carrie for having inspirational songs with a good tune. This one is about moving on from things that are already over. I have a hard time with moving on from anything. With people, I always want to believe that friendships last forever, and am heartbroken when I realize they won't. I hate it when I'm doing a show and it ends, it feels like someone has ripped part me away. I dwell on my mistakes, hardcore, I agonize over every detail, and never let it go inwardly. This song reminds me that yes, these things are hard, but you have to keep moving, eventually you move on and grow from the experience.

03 - Crazy Dreams - This song is me. It's about chasing your dreams no matter how crazy they may seem to anyone else. I want to be an actress. I get told I'm crazy about three to four times a month. It's really annoying. I love this song because she tells you to chase them because even crazy dreams come true with some effort. I haven't even started to audition yet because of a few obstacles that I keep running into. Also it's terrifying to actually chase your dreams, but this song is one that makes me feel like anything is possible. When ever I feel like throwing in the towel I listen to this song and remember that it will happen!

02 - Nobody Ever Told You - This was originally at number 3, but I moved it up because it deserves a higher spot. Really it could number one too. This song is about telling girls they are beautiful, to get rid of the make-up, you don't need, you are gorgeous the way you are. Body image is something I struggle with greatly. This past year I obsesses about my weight and I think that it made me gain more weight, because I was depressed with how I looked in the mirror. But I'm starting to realize that what I see isn't necessarily what other people see. I heard this song, I thought it was the perfect song to remind us that we don't need some societal standard to tell us we are beautiful. We already are.

01 - Lessons Learned - It's another song about being able to move on from one thing or another. However, this one reminds you that everything you have gone through has taught you something. My childhood from the age of 11 to 18 was not the easiest, it wasn't the worst either, but it wasn't easy either. I have gone through several things in my short adult life that have brought me to my knee's, but I am thankful for every single thing that has happened, because it has shaped me into the person that I am. I wouldn't change that for the world.


So thank you Carrie Underwood, you will probably never see this, but your songs (especially these) have influenced my life in more ways you can imagine.

3 Things (Wednesday) - Upworthy.com, Conversational Kids, Opening up

1 - So recently I have discovered the glory that is upworthy.com. It is a website about just really post videos promoting good things happening in the world. Sometimes those videos can be depressing when you hear someones story, but for the most part is shows someone doing something good, or saying something uplifting. In light of so many negative, gross, hateful things that happen every day it's great to see someone focusing on positive things, we really do need more of this. The link below is the video that was my favorite today.

"Nobody gets to be you but you." - Neil Gaiman

http://www.upworthy.com/haterade-got-you-down-heres-a-tall-glass-of-sweet-encouragement-juice-instead

2 - Tonight at work, a little girl came up to window, with her mom. She just had to tell us about her American Girl doll, and how she had picked out the glasses, the outfit, and shoes herself. To make it better she did not match her doll (I find it annoying when they dress like their dolls), but the doll had a completely different outfit. Back to the point, she was so excited to tell strangers about this awesome thing she had just done. She also made it a big point to get her brother, dad and friend a cupcake. On my home I started to think about this little girl, what if we were all more like this? More open, less afraid to just be who we are, in essence like kids. I feel like when we're growing up and finding ourselves, we also lose ourselves a bit in trying to fit in societal standards. I want to be more like that little girl. Maybe people wouldn't hate on each other so much if we a little more open. Some people may think this is a naive way of thinking, but I think those people are usually the who are afraid to be who they really are.

3 - This one kind of applies to the one above - I have been working at the cupcake shop for about two and a half months now, and tonight was the first night I think that I really opened up and just let myself be who I am. I am weird, and usually for no reason, I am okay with that, but for some reason I wasn't letting that out. It felt good. I'm going to be afraid of that anymore!

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Twisted Words - In Defense of Mr. Robertson

So today there was an article posted on Phil Robertson, from Duck Dynasty's supposed Anti-Gay comments, and with that followed an uproar from GLAAD, many from the gay community.

Here is the exact quote from GQ Magazine:
“Everything is blurred on what’s right and what’s wrong,” he says. “Sin becomes fine.”

What, in your mind, is sinful?

“Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there. Bestiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men,” he says. Then he paraphrases Corinthians: “Don’t be deceived. Neither the adulterers, the idolaters, the male prostitutes, the homosexual offenders, the greedy, the drunkards, the slanderers, the swindlers—they won’t inherit the kingdom of God. Don’t deceive yourself. It’s not right.”
 
The exact verse that he is quoting is 1 Corinthians 6:9-10: "or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor mean who have sex with men, nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." New International Version

Now, Mr. Robertson was talking about sin in the general sense, as in all sins are equal. I don't know much about the show, except that this is a very bible based family, and that is fine. We do in fact, in case some of you have forgotten, live in country that allows us the freedom of religion and speech, meaning that the man is indeed entitled to his own opinions, and he is allowed to speak the aloud. Yes this next quote may be lacking a little class, but that's just who he is and I say good for you Phil.

“It seems like, to me, a vagina—as a man—would be more desirable than a man’s anus. That’s just me. I’m just thinking: There’s more there! She’s got more to offer. I mean, come on, dudes! You know what I’m saying? But hey, sin: It’s not logical, my man. It’s just not logical.” Phil Robertson, GQ Magazine interview.

These are his opinions as a religious man who follows what he believes to be God's one true word and that is the Bible. Now don't get me wrong here, I am a big supporter of gay rights, and am a Christian. For me the Bible has always been a gray area, and I believe that there are many ways it can be interpreted. But if you are a person who reads the Bible and takes the words at face value, depending on which version you are reading, which is indeed the case with Mr. Robertson, homosexuality is considered wrong. End of story. I know many people that believe this same thing, but I don't think that makes them a terrible person. They are simply faithful to their belief system. People are entitled to their own opinions, whether you agree with them or not doesn't matter.

Back to the point. The man was asked his personal opinion on what he believed to be sin, and he gave it. I believe many people would have rather had him lie so he could please the world. I don't agree with him, but I'm glad he was truthful to himself. However, he did not just list homosexuality as so many people seem to be suggesting. He also made it a point to show that, again, he believes all sin is equal. Think about it, this is a man who very much believes in the Bible and all of it's commandments. Now think to the Ten Commandments; thou shalt not lie, and thou shalt not murder are both there in God's top ten rules for life. Which is worse? As people we gravitate toward murder obviously. Taking a life is something more serious, than telling your mother that you have to work for Justin Beiber and that's why you can't come home for Christmas. But what Christians are told from the very beginning is that they both hold equal weight in God's eye's. 
 
Everyone knows that this man is a pretty solid Christian at least publicly. I've never met him so I don't really know. By saying that he was comparing homosexuality and bestiality, was a complete and total twist of his words. Did you actually read the article?! 
 
Now I'm going to say this, and many of you will find it offensive and I don't care. This whole outcry was an entire overreaction from the Gay and Lesbian Community and supporters. It is drama for the sake of creating drama. You have attacked a man who openly calls himself a Bible thumper because he said something against you're own personal beliefs, so that you can set yourself on a pedestal, and look down upon him. You bullied him. I guarantee he won't condemn you or judge you for it later either.

He also said this on the judgement of people.

"We never, ever judge someone on who's going to heaven, hell. That's the Almighty's job," he told the magazine. "We just love 'em, give 'em the good news about Jesus — whether they're homosexuals, drunks, terrorists. We let God sort 'em out later, you see what I'm saying?"

Still, Robertson insisted that his family "really believes strongly that if the human race loved each other and they loved God, we would just be better off. We ought to just be repentant, turn to God, and… everything will turn around."
 
What really annoys me even more about this is the fact that if Mr. Robertson, had instead been an openly gay man, and had made slam against Christians, I truly believe there would have been no repercussion. Because, ya know it's only bullying if you pick on the gay's. Newsflash, Christians can be bullied too. This is however just speculation, but really you hardly ever anyone defend the Christians, and as one, I find that saddening.
 
My advice, the next time you decide to just take what you think the popular opinion will be, especially when it attacks someones personality, looks or beliefs, I suggest you actually read what was written, or do some research.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Top Ten Favorite Carrie Underwood Songs Part 1

So a long time ago I said I would write a top ten Carrie Underwood list well, well I finally finished the first half. It's not long I just kept putting it off. Also in light of recent event's (The Sound of Music) and how unnecessarily mean people were about her performance I wanted to write this little bit to show some support for Carrie. So without further ado I give you part one. Part two to follow tomorrow. I swear.

10 - Jesus Take the Wheel - This is the first song I heard from Carrie Underwood. If you've been listening to her since the beginning, it's probably the first one you heard as well. This is the song that hooked me and made me say "I need to listen to more!" So that, beyond the fact that this song reminds you where you should turn when things are getting tough, is why it makes the top ten for Carrie.


09 - The More Boys I Meet - This song first is just fun, but during some crappy times with guys in my life I would crank this song up to make myself feel better. Because there definitely was a point where I felt this exact way. When the boy and I went through one of our break up stints, and it seemed like every time I met a guy he was a big giant doucher, who only wanted to get in my pants. Which I was 21 and in college, so no big shock right? But I definitely, would always want to cuddle up with my dog Lucky who was back home in PA, but this song cheered me up and made me laugh every time I listened to it.
 

08 - Mama's Song - I admittedly never really listen to this song because I cry every single time. Every. Single. Time. My mom and I have a loving, but complicated relationship. Growing up I was Mama's little girl and never wanted to leave her side. When Thomas and I started dating, things started to become strained, I would pass on some of my immediate family events to go to his family events or to go see him. My priorities were changing, and whether she will admit it or not, that was hard for my mom to deal with. This song came out and I played it for her one night and we listened to it and cried together. My mom drives me nuts sometimes, but she supposed to isn't she? That's the mothers duty! But she will never lose me. And I found what she wanted for me.


07 - I Ain't In Checotah Anymore - I moved from a town much like the one describe in this song. So this one sticks with me, I now live in L.A. and where ever I end up, will be another city. This song to me, also shows a bit of Carrie's personality in her song. Small town girl, who is loving big city life, but misses her roots. That is me in a nutshell. I come from a one stop light town, literally, and some of the things described in this song are exactly how I feel living in LA sometimes. Especially working at the Grove. "You can get anything you want here, except a Walmart store." There is a Walmart here, but you might die if you go to it. I miss the simple things in small town life, but I do love the city.
 

06 - Change - The beginning of this song get's more than anything because this is how I feel every time I see a homeless person in LA. The message in this song just tells you basically how I feel about life. The smallest thing can make a difference. A conversation, a smile, that dime in your pocket can be the difference in someone having even just a hot dog from seven eleven that night. Another reason I love Carrie, she makes songs like this and it shows that she really is a genuine person.

Now I enjoy all of these songs for vastly personal reasons, but I think that is great. I think that as a singer you need to be able to touch your listeners, music should have a message, which is something lacking these days. Plus the girl is a great belter!



3 for Tuesday - John Scott, Hallelujah, Janet talks

1 - WhoisJohnScott.com - So I was on the subway today, and this man get's on and he has the most intriguing sticker on his briefcase. It said WhoIsJohnScott.com. I found this very interesting so earlier this evening I sat down to look at the website and what I found cracked me up. This guy is either a big genius or a big scammer. I'm going to go with genius, because that's nicer. Anyway, he literally just created this whole idea for a business based around finding his identity. People pay one dollar to purchase a Who Is John Scott bumper sticker, his line has expanded to hats, patches and a few other items. I just thought that this was really fun, and cool way for this man in his seventies to make a living. Check the site out here


2 - This Song. Someone was playing it on their guitar in Hollywood tonight, and it was so peaceful and this video is is lovely too.

3 - Janet Talks - So I am extremely blessed in the sense that I LOVE my boyfriends mother. There are so many women out there that are not lucky enough to have the same kind of connection I have with her. Since day one she and I have always clicked. She and I don't talk often but when we do talk it will be for a really long time, tonight's conversation was almost an hour and a half, and it's both talking back and forth to each other which I love, because I am a talker and I love some one who can talk back. Also she is just such an awesome mom in general. My mom isn't around really right now, and it's nice to have that mom figure there. Even though I am at the point in my life where I don't need a mom to tell me what I need to do to figure out my life, sometimes it's nice to have that connection. That's what makes Janet talks so special, I consider her my second mother, but she's also a great friend.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Three things for Yesterday - Titanic, Electric Reindeer, and Once Mid-Season Finale

1 - Titanic - This movie is so wonderfully, brilliantly awful, and fantastic at the same time. It really is the epitome of "chick flick." The dialogue makes me want to smack James Cameron, I mean come on, how many times can Jack and Rose seriously say each others names in the same conversation? The overall story of the movie is very touching, I cry every single time Rose realizes Jack is dead. Also part of the enjoyment of this, is my boyfriend's groaning reaction to me watching it, then laughing at me for crying, I'm also laughing at myself, cause this movie really is bad, but I love it so much! It also inspired me to research Titanic again, just to really know what it's about, and remember that it wasn't just a love gooey love story. It happened.

2 - Electric Reindeer Wine - So I wrote about World Market last week, and how amazing it was. One of my purchases was a cheap wine called Electric Reindeer. Obviously I picked it due to the Christmas theme. To add to my cliche of being a girl last night while was watching Titanic, I decided to have a glass of Red Wine. This is probably the best cheap wine I have ever had! If not for the adverse effects it would have had, I would have had the whole bottle! By adverse I mean, I would have been a drunky pants, and quite frankly I'm not about that these days. But it was actually pretty good, and you could tell it was a cheap wine, which I found charming but, it didn't make me gag. Plus it's a cab. Can't really go wrong there in my mind.



3 - Once Upon a Time Mid Season Finale - Oh. My. Goodness. I had so many feelings, I laughed a few times, I yelled at the screen, and I cried...a lot. Season three of Once has been on the slow side, and the episode 10 of the season was not good. But last night I watched the mid-season finale, and boy oh boy did they redeem themselves. Regina is my favorite character, there is no doubt about that, so in the final scene, when most of the emotional stuff was happening revolved and relied on her story, I was a mess! I'm not going to say too much just in case anyone else watches the show.

So yeah a lot of crying happening yesterday, but all over things that I loved.

Monday, December 16, 2013

This weekend - Christmasing with the some of the family!

This weekend was kind of just magical so I am having trouble picking things so I am going to focus on the best ones.

B and N came to visit us for and early Christmas this weekend, and we had a blast. I cannot express enough how much I love these two. 

I will actually write tomorrow. But right now I am watching Les Mis and it is literally angering me. So here are some pictures.









Saturday, December 14, 2013

9 things Wednesday, Thursday and today

The last three days got a little hectic, but I'm going to post for all three days!

1 - So I have be fortunate enough to have someone to ride the bus home with most nights since starting my new job. Her name is Carly and she's probably the cutest little New Yorker you've ever met. She sounds like it for sure. The best part about the bus rides with her is that we are both talkers so when we are around each other, we have the best conversation. This particular night we were talking about body image. Carly is a dancer and is in great shape, it always baffles me when a girl who looks like her can still be insecure, but she's confident enough to not care at the same time. Carly is one of the sweetest, people I have ever made, and I'm glad we get to ride the bus together.

2 - So the whole pay if forward thing that I wanted for Christmas? It totally happened right in front of my eyes. A girl was in line at my job and had ordered but then started looking for her wallet and couldn't find it. Without hesitating, the man in front of her offered to buy her cupcake! How cool is that?! We ended just giving her one anyway but still, that was cool.

3 - This article from Huffpost 11 Body Image Heroes of 2013 - Shailene Woodley keeps surprising me!

4 - Last Christmas by Wham is always apart of my Christmas and for some reason I didn't listen to it until yesterday. But when it came on it made me smile

5 - There is a 24 hour donut shop, literally less than 2 blocks from my house. I had never gone because it looked sketch, as do many things in K-town. But I had to do laundry at the laundry mat the other night and my friend Ben went with me. This was the best crappy donut place...ever. I got a hot chocolate and a raspberry filled donut for $2.25. These thing just don't happen anymore. Part of the perks of living in the city I guess.

6 - World Market, where has this place been all my life?! I am now in love with this place. It's just a big store that has foods and stuff from all over the world. And cheap goods. I finally have wine glasses in my place because they had them for two dollars! Two dollars, and they are not all the flimsy either. It was nice to go into this store because Ben and I went to Sur La Table to look at possible gift things...that was a stupid idea. That store is as pretentious as pretentious can be. But World Market is a god of sorts. I mean I got a wine called Electric Reindeer!

7 - Fast work days - I worked a straight 6 days this week and now have two days off. But today just flew by, maybe it was the excitement of having the next two days to spend with my boyfriends sister and her hubby (which I am unbelievably excited for), regardless I was really thankful it went quickly.

8 - Reorganizing my life a little bit today, this week kind of got away from me. But because I got out earlier, I was able to come home and put things back where the belonged. Also I came home thinking that I was going to have sooo much cleaning to do. Had to clean the bathroom, dust and vacuum the living room and bedroom, and bunch of other things, but my awesome boyfriend had already done most of it! All I had to do was the bathroom and my side of the bedroom. It was really nice.

9 - So Delicious Nog - I can't believe I didn't write about this sooner. So I am a big fan of egg nog, except that when you drink it, it makes your breath reek, and it's pretty bad for you. Then I found this brand called So Delicious at the grocery store, and what they do is take normal drinks and create vegan friendly versions of some things, so they use coconut milk instead. I. am. obsessed. It tastes just like the real thing. I don't think I can ever go back now. Ever. It's so perfect and I drink more than a small glass before my stomach gets mad. Seriously try this stuff.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Old books, Dog's dressed up like Santa, People helping each other.

1 - Old Books - So you might think I'm weird because of this, as I was getting off the bus today, I got a sudden whiff of something very sweet and familiar. It took me back to being in the library in elementary school, and the excitement I had over reading. There was a man reading an older paperback book. I don't know what the title was, but the pages were yellowed and the print was small, and I could smell it just walking past him, it made me extremely happy.

2 - Santa Dogs - Again I love my job. So the bakery I work at sells cupcakes that are dog friendly. Well today they had a promotion going, and if you brought your dog dressed as Santa (or just dressed) your pup, got a free puppy cupcake! We actually didn't have as many as we would have liked to have seen, but I saw THREE bulldogs dressed as Santa. Week made.

3 - So this kind of diverts to my blog about Christmas. Today I got to witness a few people reaching out to someone else and it warmed my heart to see that not everyone in LA is heartless and unfeeling. I was on the bus home (lots of things happen on the bus) I was sitting across from an older gentlemen and he had few bags full of canned food, and other food items. Somehow he dropped all of the contents in his three bags, just a stroke of bad luck really. What was cool is that everyone that was around him, including myself, immediately started to help him pick everything up, all he had to do was hold the bags open. It was something so simple, but I think people take for granted how much an action like that can impact someone. It was a great note to end the night on.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Slow days, bus conversations, and hot chocolate

Okay so in starting to write again, I am going to attempt try my (or Barbara's rather) three postive things about my day again.

1 - Slow days at work - I love the place I work now, I mean LOVE it. It is so much fun and the people I work with are genuinely nice people. It is a very busy location, so I don't always have time to really bond with my coworkers. Tonight we were extremely slow, and while we continued to try to find things work related to do, it was a fun night, because we all just had fun conversations, and got to goof around a little more than the usual, it was definitely a bonding night.

2 - Bus conversations - I take the bus to work. On the way home tonight, I was playing with my phone which is the norm, cause smart phones. An older man sitting beside me politely and very sweetly asked me if that was the internet on my phone (I was on Facebook), to which I replied that it was, we had a small conversation about the way phones had changed, then stopped, and I started going back to my phone. Then it hit me, that my phone was taking up too much of my attention, so I locked it put it away and started up a conversation with the gentleman again. He got off the bus shortly after, but it was nice to put my technology away even for a second to connect with another person. This usually happens when I take a book and am reading, that I need to do more of.

3 - Hot chocolate - I headed to the grove an hour and half before my shift tonight to get some Christmas shopping done. Now I don't care what anyone else says, fifty degrees in LA is cold. There is something about it here that makes it that much colder. But I digress, I was cold and was going to be outside, so I wanted something warm to drink. I don't drink coffee anymore, so hot chocolate is becoming a love of mine, especially this winter. So I found a little place inside the Farmers Market, it was probably the best hot chocolate ever, I don't know what was different, but it was great. It really made my night, and it made the shopping thing so much more enjoyable.

Monday, December 9, 2013

Spread the Love

Going back a few...a lot...of  days. I can't really say that things have been too crazy, more that I have been increasingly lazy about the blog. So I do apologize. Also I have been a bit of a Negative Nancy lately, and no one really needs to read about that. So I am returning to the blog world with my attitude geared in the right direction, and also writing about the stuff that makes me happy, usually helps me out.

First off Thanksgiving was awesome, I had 13 people in my house, and while I was friggin' exhausted by the time it was all said and done, I was so happy it happened. Something I am learning about myself...I really like to entertain, in the sense that I enjoy having people over.

Now even more important...IT'S CHRISTMAS TIME Y'ALL! This is my favorite time of the year! It always has been, since I was a little kid. I love the music, the lights, the smells, the food (which is part of why I will probably never be smaller than what I currently am), I genuinely am a cheery Christmas person. Sometimes I'm obnoxious with it, and I don't care, if you don't like Christmas that's you're own prerogative! I really could not give a crap about gifts. I like to find things for other people, this year, I'm looking harder to really find things that are really special for that person, but as far as getting gifts, no matter how much I like them, I don't get that excited because this holiday isn't about that for me. It's about love.

Many of you that know me, know the basic story of my upbringing. We went through some very hard times, money was always a problem, and still is for my family,  but this time of year was always magical, and it wasn't because of the gifts that were under the tree, it was because of love. No matter how much we fought, and wanted to strangle each other, my family loved each other. Christmas was the one time of year, where nothing in the world outside of us being a family mattered. As kids we usually liked what we got for Christmas, but honestly I think we liked looking at the tree with the presents under it, because it was sooo pretty. My sister and I would continuously play the Disney Sing-A-Long Christmas tape, and dance to it, mom and I would always make cookies and inevitably burn at least one tray. My dad was always in charge of the lights, and putting the angel on the tree. And yes every year, we always watch all of the silly 1960's claymation movies, because they are awesome.

Now for my point of all this. Christmas is about love. I have been asked countless times already "What do you want for Christmas?" I really don't like this question because, honestly, I don't want anything. Yes there are things I need, and I struggle very much with money, but I have enough. I have a boyfriend that loves me more than I think I comprehend sometimes, friends who would do anything for me, food in my refrigerator and a roof over my head. There are so many people that don't have even one of these things, and I am grateful that I do have so much. I miss my family more than anything this time of year, but the void is being somewhat filled this year by four other people that have become my Los Angeles family.

This year what I want people to do for Christmas is simply do something for someone else, and spread a little love around. It could be something as simple as buying, the person behind you's coffee at Starbucks. Reach out to someone less fortunate than you are, they may just want someone to talk to that day. That is what I want for Christmas. Spread peace, joy, and love.

As I am writing this my all time favorite Christmas song started to play on Spotify, and it is perfect, I tear up every time I hear it. Take a listen.


Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Twitter, Christmas Music, Daddy chats

Okay so this week I finally did something in social media that I swore I would never, ever do. I joined Twitter. And I can't lie, I kind of love it. It's really fun to see what people come up with on there. It's not the stalkerish thing that I thought it was. So too morals out of this. 1 - Don't knock it till you try it. 2 - Never say never. So much from a social media site.

Christmas Music - Yes I am THAT person, who starts in October. Usually I start in September, but for my boyfriends sanity I refrained, and I have even only listened to it alone, or with headphones, because I'm that nice. But the point is, it makes me really happy to listen to Christmas music! I love Christmas, it is my favorite holiday. This does not mean Thanksgiving will be pushed aside. I am very excited about this as well, but something about listening to Alvin and the Chipmunks on my way to work puts me a really snazzy mood!

I got to talk to my dad for a good long while yesterday and that made me extremely happy! I am a daddy's girl, my whole family knows it. Lately with our conflicting schedules and the time difference my dad and I haven't been able to connect, but I got to talk to him for over an hour yesterday, about pretty much nothing, important. We also discussed me FINALLY going home for a trip after a year and half in February! This is happening, I couldn't be more excited. I love my family and not seeing them after this long, is just craziness. With my new job, I should be able to go home once or twice a year at least now!




Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Slasher movies, and reorganizing, late Hang Outs

Yesterday I spent most of my day slowly reorganizing my closet. Which included getting ride of some things that I was never going to where again. It felt good, I felt like I was doing something very adulty. I no longer own any jean mini skirts, I mean I'm 24, really it was time for them to go. I did however keep a few things for costuming purposes. Who knows maybe I will need them.

I watched Scream pretty much all day while doing this and enjoyed it. Scream is part of my Halloween experience, I love those mediocre slasher movies, I don't care what anyone says!

My house is becoming a hang out spot for some of my friends, and I LOVE it. I love having people over. I am kind of a homebody and an extrovert at the same time, it's a convoluted mixture, but it is what it is. Last night my friend and our writing partner Ben came over to hang out mainly for venting purposes, we have found a good friend base and it has really become a blessing for us!



Sunday, October 20, 2013

Endings, New Beginnings, and Nevada

Last Friday was my last day at the Chinese Restaurant I now used to work at. After the work day a few of us went to a little Mexican restaurant down the street for drinks. Which by the way. If you're in Beverly Hills and want to go to Frida's. Save yourself the trouble and don't, you will be better for it. That part was some what fun. However we took the fun back to my place, which ended up being a blast.

Now I will digress a little. I had been feeling extremely mixed emotions about leaving this place. Not because it was a good job or anything, but because I had built some relationships out of it that I did want to lose, and in the past moving away from something has always meant losing close relationships, which is part of life as I have grown to learn and accept. I don't love it, but I accept it. I spent so much time with these people that they were my LA family, and now I was leaving them behind.

Back to Friday Night. This night actually showed me that this was the true beginning of so many of these new relationships. Outside of work, we were able to discover so much more about each other, sides that you would not see otherwise. Since that night efforts have been made for us all to see each other again. Because now, we don't just have to see each other, we want to. I have been dying to have a connection with people like this in LA for a very long time, and I think it has finally happened, and it is making me a happier person for it.



The Cupcake place is the best thing I could ever have asked for. I actually look forward to going to work every time. Everyone there is so open and it's easy to make friends, I've actually already started in some cases and it's great. It has been a wonderful restart to my life. Including helping the drive for acting. Pretty much everyone I work with is an actor, which is amazing, you gain inspiration by being around people with the same interests and drive as yourself. God really knew where I needed to be and found the perfect place for me! Plus I get to see this whenever I leave work!


Nevada - Everything about this place I love. It's my third home. The first two being Pennsylvania, and Los Angeles. Every time I come here, even though I've only known my family for a few years, it's like they have always been there. Sitting in my grandparents kitchen always gives me that warm fuzzy feeling, that you can only get by being with your grandparents. I don't know how to explain it. I love that I get to have that in my life.

I have no clue when I will get to go home, so it makes me so happy that I get to come here as often as I can. Another piece of God's plan for me I believe. I need family around me, but if I have it constantly I will not let myself strive for the things I want in my life. Not because my family tries to prevent me from doing that, but because when I'm close to my family members I want to be around them as much as I can, spending all of my free time with them, because I love them that much. I firmly believe that is why, for the time being I am meant to be in L.A. but get have some family so close in Sparks. They close enough for quick trips, but then they are far enough for me to learn how to keep my self focused, and believe me I still have a long, long way to go on that.

My aunt is easily my best friend. Everyone who knows me, knows this. I look up to her in so many ways. This woman is a pillar of strength, resilience, and most importantly, faith. She has not had an easy few years, and this past year has been especially difficult, but through it all, she has still held on to the one thing that she knows will get her through, and that is God's promise that things will get better in time. She kind of reminds of Job right now.

Through everything that has happened in the past few years, she is still able to put on a smile, and find ways to laugh. Whether it be with hanging out with friends, or her goofy animals, she knows that life is still happening and she doesn't try to hide from it.  I love spending time with her, every time I get to come here is blessing, and we always end up with some new little side jokes out of it.

And if visting those three weren't enough incentive for visiting Nevada, here are a few pics of that would be.









And these just show the adorableness of it all.

 Miss Buffy. She has had rough year but has been a trooper, and is looking pretty good these days.
 Bentley and Belle. The sappiest, and cutest Bassets on this earth.





Friday, October 11, 2013

Mini Vacay's, New Job, Best TV Show Ever

Okay so it's been about a month since I've written, it's been a little nutso and plus I really wasn't in a positive place, so essentially I had a writers block.

When I started this blog I originally wanted to something everyday for thirty days specifically.  Now what I am going to start is something out of my boyfriend's, sister's blog (she gave permission I promise). 3 Things. Each day to write about three things that affected my day positively. And sometimes I'll miss a day hear and there, sure but it's something to help focus on the positivity in my life. So to start it off, I will do three things from the past month.

1 - Visiting the Alfeo's - Towards the end of the month the boyfriend and I went to visit his sister and her husband, which was an all around awesome visit that included seeing Casablanca on the big screen, and laser tag. Pretty much an epic weekend.

On Saturday we joined them to do The Walk to End Alzheimers, and it rained through the whole thing, but it was worth it. I love being with family, evening when getting soaked. Then Sunday we played mini golf, which I am NOT good at. At all. But it was a lot of fun, and they had some random medievally music playing which made everything that much better.

The best part about this trip for me though, was getting to just kick back and talk to Barbara. This woman is honestly one of my favorite people in the entire world and I don't think I let her know it enough. She is a giant ray of sunshine with the perfect amount of goofball and sass. There is a whole lot I could go on about here, but in essence, Barbara is the perfect big sister..

2 - New Job - This says it all! I am leaving my current restaurant to work at a cupcake place, and I couldn't be happier about that decision. Due to social media contracts and I cannot list where I am working, but it's cupcakes. Generally, customers are so much nicer and easier to deal with, and it's a full time job that pays decently, and when needed I could actually request days off here and there to do auditions! This part makes me even happier. The people I work with so far are incredibly nice, and they are fun! We have spirit days Wednesday was Wacky sock Wednesday, I wore some pretty cool Jack Skelington socks. All in all, I know I made the right choice.

3 - Once Upon A Time - I found my dream T.V. show. One that I love to watch, and that I am also determined to be on someday! It. Will. Happen. I am soooooo happy that I finally starting watching this show. And if you aren't watching it, you're wrong. Stop what you're doing and go watch it now, it's that good! I now have a newfound love for acting because of this show, and a new favorite actress. Lana Parrilla, is one of the most talented women, I have ever seen in my life...ever. She plays the Evil Queen, my favorite character, I always like the bad guy for some reason, Grease is proof. Anyway there will be a blog about the Evil Queen and Once Upon A Time as a whole, because this show changed my entire outlook on life.

Okay that was a little snippet of this past month, three things that really inspired me. Can't wait to see what tomorrow brings.

Monday, September 9, 2013

A Little Catch Up

Today was pretty much perfect. Sadly I don't have very many pictures, but a few highlights from the last week.

We moved! Again, yes but we now live in a nice two bedroom apartment, and it is awesome! I promise pictures soon, we still have some decor to do. But the boy and I have our own room now which we are loving! We are both people who really need our space once in awhile and having a bedroom to escape to really helps that. Our roomies are awesome though, and we are getting along so well!

Speaking of roomies, we gained another one, Kasee! Kasee and I were roommates in college for one semester, and had I stayed at the school longer we would have stayed roommates. I am so happy that she is here. Kasee, much like Melody, puts up with my weirdness, which I love. Melody usually joins me while I'm being weird and Kasee laughs and makes fun of us. Then Thomas usually comes in and tackles me or something. We have lovely blend here.

Talking to my Aunt and grandparents - I have been living in L.A. for over a year now, and have yet to even have a plan to go home to visit. I'm a big family person. More than I like to let on sometimes, I luckily have family in Reno which is closer and a little easier to get to, but haven't been able to see them for awhile either. So I've been all around missing my family horribly.

 People that know me, know that I am extremely close to my Aunt from my biological fathers side of the family. We will go pretty long stretches without talking to each other, but we are pretty good about texting each other to keep up. But when we do get to talk it's always awesome, whether we are talking just to talk, in which case we are usually laughing most of the conversation, or we are encouraging each other. We are pretty in sync with each other which I think is awesome, so when I'm down she always knows what to say to me, and I think I help her too.

I always try to call my Gramps at least every other week. I didn't get the whole Grandpa, and Grandma thing that much as a kid. (Don't me wrong I love all my grandparents, they were just absent when I was younger.) But even though my Gramps isn't really able to do a whole lot physically I love talking to him. He doesn't usually say much just lets me talk. It's just nice to know who he is, and to have him to talk to.

Talking to Gram is equally fun, and she usually adds more to the conversation. She's also a very funny lady. Like my Aunt, she's a pretty busy person so I rarely get to connect with her, and she doesn't text, but our conversations always leave me happy. In one conversation, she was talking to me about her Netflix. She gets discs still, and she has a whole list to go through. Well she had Magic Mike on the list. Yeah my grandmother is pretty awesome. In short in a few days time I got to talk to all of them which was fantastic. I even made plans to go see them soon!

Triple fudge brownies - Do I need to say anymore? Top them off with snickerdoodle ice cream. No it's not healthy, but my mouth didn't care. You will thank me later.

My boyfriend - I had a very busy week and was exhausted and stressed out. We just moved and I was really tired. I had so much unpacking to do. I managed to do the bathroom and reorganize the kitchen. One day I came home from work and all of my stuff was done for me! My wonderful boyfriend did it for me, I was so incredibly relieved and thankful for it and still am, cause by the time I got home yesterday I was done.

Rediscovering Carrie Underwood - I forgot how much I love this woman! I love country and she just has a way of making it her own. But I listened to her first album a lot today and a few songs stuck out to me.


Lesson's Learned is pretty much the perfect song about life I think, especially when you're going through something this is beaten you down. It kind of reminds you that it will end eventually, and that someday you will be thankful for it. I went through a pretty rough patch awhile back, and while I'm not out of the clear yet, this song made remember that everything is for a reason. "Every change life has thrown me, I'm thankful for every break in my heart, I'm thankful for every start."

I could right a whole blog about Carrie Underwood, and probably will...tomorrow...but for tonight. It's time I get some sleep. Six day work week again. Let's do this!

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Taming the Judgement

This past week I have come to some realizations about people, especially including myself. We are extremely judgmental beings! Bear with me here for a moment, please. Because I know that you are thinking, "hey isn't this supposed to be about the positive stuff?" Don't worry I'm getting there.

I am working on becoming a more positive person. Getting back to to it more like, however I know that I have a long way to go, but I do know that I am making some sort of progress here. However the other day I was struck by something about myself. I was hosting at work, and with the way they do things now I have to be outside, which is fine, I like being outside. Its Beverly Hills so you see all sorts of different people. Mostly well off. And some incredibly different people as well. This specific day, a girl walked by, with what I believed to be a rather questionable outfit, and my brain instantly went into "what is she thinking?'' Then like a big smack in the face, I realized, it's none of my business. This girl is in charge of her own life and nothing that anyone tells her, or thinks about her is going to change that. And for all I know, she may not have had anything else in her closet that day.

This one thought got me thinking about our human nature for a good part of the night. We spend so much of our lives pointing out imperfections in other people, and for what? What lets us feel we have the right to judge a person wholly on theirs appearance. Are we simply mean-spirited? Or more likely are we pointing out others imperfections, because we aren't fully comfortable with who we are? I think the latter is more likely the case.

We live in a society where first impressions are everything, but what we all consistently forget is that there are layers to people. You will never discover much about a person on your first meeting. I have been with my boyfriend for over six years and while I feel like I know him pretty well, I still learn more about him everyday.

At the end of the day judging people for absolutely no reason, or any reason at all really, especially when you don't know their whole story, really doesn't do anything for you does it? For me I know I just feel bad about it later, especially if I meet someone, and right away make judgements about them, then find out how awesome they are later. You can miss out on some of the coolest people if you make snap judgements. Now this isn't to say that after you get to know someone, and don't agree with their lifestyle you should continue to be their best friend, but you can separate yourself from that person. After all it is their life, you can't change them to fit your needs, and they shouldn't change you to fit theirs.

So this is something I am trying to work on myself, just working on becoming more open-minded, and I believe the rest will fall into place. I'm not going to beat myself up, everytime I think something bad about another person, because that's not healthy either, we are merely humans after all. But even if I do make snap judgements, to try to remember, this one simple detail; I know absolutely nothing about this persons life. To me that just puts it all into perspective. Everyone lives differently, and the best way to live your own life fully is not to worry about how everyone else is living theirs.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Tuesday Healthventures! Tea and Banana's

Okay let me preface this by stating the obvious. I am not an expert, nor am I going to pretend to be. This segment is strictly about me finding out what has worked for my body. If it works for you too then great!

About three weeks ago, I made the decision to say goodbye to a very dear friend. Starbucks. See, I loved coffee, and I could have had anywhere from one to three cups a day, which isn't as bad as some, but worse than others. But I pretty much always started off my morning with a cup.

Now let me back track. At the end of May this year I was informed that I will basically be living with chronic migraines. At 24, it's pretty damn irritating to deal with, and I now have to take a pill every night to combat them. So I have been on a mission to search for natural ways of combating these horrible, horrible things, because I hate taking pills. I hate the idea of putting something unnatural in my body.

Back to the coffee. Every morning when I woke up I would have my cup, I was convinced I needed that jolt to get me going for the day. I was still having headaches every week if not multiple times a week. I was in a constant state of migraine. I was increasing my coffee intake with the headaches believing that the caffeine would help, which it did to an extent. One morning after and very busy weekend, where for some reason or another I hadn't had any coffee at all, I woke up and realized that I wasn't dizzy, didn't have a headache, and hadn't had even a cup of coffee in three days. Caffeine is a trigger.

I decided to take a week to test out this theory, and just not drink anything caffeinated what so ever for the rest of the week. Sure enough, not a single dizzy spell.



As of late instead of drinking my cup of joe in the morning I am now in the habit of having a cup of tea to put me to sleep at night. A routine I am growing quite fond of. But I also needed something to boost me in the mornings, so I did some research and hear are too things that I now do every morning.

Peppermint Tea - First it's supposed to really help ease migraine pain. I put it to the test today and it does. I had one coming on, and it pretty much kicked it. But it also helps with things like digestive health, and helps to ease nausea and other unpleasant things caused by stomach malfunctions. It also helps relax the muscles, which is why I believe this has started to become part of my morning routine. I am usually super tense when I wake up, even if I'm in a good mood, I'm just not a morning person. I like sleep. But this tea helps to relax me, but not so much that I want to sleep. Just enough so I feel ready for my day.

Bananas - I have loved this fruit since I was a kid, and it is my morning staple now. One reason first if I don't have time to have a full breakfast, a banana fills me up just fine, and gives me an awesome energy boost. But seriously this is like the best fruit of all time...well these and avocados. Check out this link. It completely blew my mind. I always have a banana in my purse or lunch box now!

http://foodmatters.tv/articles-1/25-powerful-reasons-to-eat-bananas

Okay that's all for this week! Next week, we'll talk smoothies...and no, not the shakes you make from a can, or packet.

Monday, August 19, 2013



This song just makes my day that's really all.

A Non-exciting Disney, kitty week

I'll be honest the past week really hasn't been all that exciting. I've been working. A lot. And I will continue to do so this week. Gotta get those head shots done!

Anyway here are a few of the positive highlights:


I swear I am never going to grow up. At least in some ways. I love Disney, and I am proud to show it, even on a lunch box that I take to work. That is just who I am. Plus look how pretty that is!

Okay so this cat is the opposite reason of why I do this blog but it's soooo funny to me! I love Grumpy Cat Meme's. The boyfriend has a bucket full of things to do whenever I'm feeling sad, and Grumpy cat is part of them. It is guaranteed to make me laugh! And the fact that it was combined with The Big Bang Theory is even better!

My boss - I'm not going to put his name on here mainly because of all the drama at my current job right now. I call him Boss-man at work so that's what I will put here. While the current situation at my job is not ideal, I still thoroughly enjoy going into work, because my boss is pretty much one of the nicest people, you will ever meet, who also gets shit done. I've described him to many as a big brother figure, he genuinely cares about his employees and wants the best for them, but will bring the hammer down if needs be. There has been a lot going on in the workplace lately, some good, and bad, and a lot of us have been really anxious to see what our fate with the company is, and for the most part Boss-man has really held the team together to the best of his ability. Quite frankly even though there are many days where I dread going into work, I am incredibly thankful with the people I work for and with.

Okay next, so to this a more regular blog I have decided to do a weekly stint on my adventures to becoming a more healthy individual. Things that I discover I like and don't like and, what I find to be facts and fiction in the realm of health nuttiness. I'm trying to turn into a health nut, and I am okay with that title if it means feeling better overall. Starting tomorrow, Tuesday's will be about my adventures into the world of becoming a more healthy individual!


Monday, August 12, 2013

Things from this week

I WILL get the hang of blogging more frequently! I swear...

So Thursday was my birthday, and no big thing. It was honestly a perfect day! I received lots of phone calls from family, and texts from friends, and got my hair cut. It was awesome.

Best part of my birthday: These and waffles!


In the world of relationships, I really am one incredibly lucky lady! He knew I wanted flowers and he got them in the best way possible. These will be able to stick around for quite some time and they are quite lovely on our balcony. Then later the boy made me waffles! One of the things he loves doing, and takes pride in. Even though he makes them a lot I always feel super special when he makes me waffles, and these were birthday waffles so there is something even more magical about them.

My bestie knows me all too well.


I love Harry Potter, and needed a new wallet. Perfect. I don't care how old I get I will always display my inner dork.

Getting my haircut at Floyds - I love this place, if you live in LA and still haven't found a reliable place to get your hair done. do it here. It's perfect. It's called Floyd's 99 Barbershop. Don't let the barbershop part throw you off the it is just as much a salon. It's a very rockish atmosphere and the music for the most part is great. Occasionally you get some crap, but the also played The Real Slim Shady and that made me happy. I will be going to get my hair done there from here on out.


I am on mission to figure out what looks work for me. 1 - I am tired of the t-shirt jeans look all of the time, I actually do like to look cute, and prettied up. 2 - I love that the sixties are coming back because it is making finding looks a lot easier! Not necessarily all of the colors, I couldn't find a good example online, because, I'm new to this whole actually trying to be fashionable thing so I didn't know what to call the style of the dresses I've recently purchased. But the best way to put it right now is that it seems to me that society is noticing that girls have figures again, which for me is awesome. Because I'm going to be real, no matter how skinny I may get someday, I am going to have a full figure. My point, I am happy that I am able to actually find cute clothes the fit me properly!

Okay that's all for now. There are many other topics but now the boyfriend is home and I want to go talk to him.